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5 Truths About Fear

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I did publish an article on fear, [Fear: What you may not know.]You may want to read that before you continue with this.


We all know how deteriorating to our health, passion and even dreams fear can be. But we may not totally be aware of some truths about it. You may want your fear to go away at once, but don’t be disappointed if it doesn’t. Fears are always at the corner and everyone does feel it.

Susan Jeffers, Ph.D shared in her book, “Feel the fear and do it anyway,” some truths about fear.

Truth 1: Fear will never go away as long as you continue to grow

As long as you continued to push out into the world, as long as you continued to stretch your capabilities, as long as you continued to take new risks in making your dreams come true, as long as you try to live your passion, you are going to experience fear.

Don’t wait till when you are no longer afraid. If you do, you would end up by playing when/then game….Time would have gone

Truth 2: The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it

My statistics tutor usually say that, there are three things you can do to your problem. One, you can face it, two you can play with it and three, you can run away from it.

The popular saying says, face your fear. That is the best thing you can do to it. If you are afraid of making friends, go out and face it. If you are afraid of speaking in front of people, go out and try it.

let’s illustrate it like this.

Do you know that a mountain far away from you is bigger and taller than when you are closer? That is how fear is. When you look at it from afar, it will look big, but the moment you move closer and face it, it begins to diminish.

Do the things you fear, and the death of fear is certain.

Truth 3: To feel better about yourself, go out and do it

The doing it comes before the feeling better about yourself. When you make something happen, not only does the fear of the situation go away, but also you get a big bonus: you do a lot toward building your self-confidence. It’s fairly predictable, however, that when you’ve finally mastered something and gotten rid of the fear, it will feel so good that you will decide that there is something else out there you want to accomplish, and—guess what! The fear begins again as you prepare to meet a new challenge.

Truth 4: You are going to experience fear whenever you are in an unfamiliar territory

Whenever you try to break new ground, make new changes, you are going into an unfamiliar territory. Your comfort zone is a territory you are familiar and comfortable with. Whenever you decide to move out, you will experience fear.

Truth 5: Pushing through fear is frightening than living with underlying fear that come from feeling of helplessness.
No matter how secure any of us feel in the little cocoon we have built for ourselves, we live, consciously or unconsciously, with the fear that the day of reckoning will eventually come.

People who refuse to take risks live with a feeling of dread that is far more severe than what they would feel if they took the risks necessary to make them less helpless—only they don’t know it!

TIPS TO CONQUER YOUR FEAR

Do you know what is keeping you in that job and relationship you don’t enjoy again? Yes, it is fear.

Below are some tips to help overcome your fear.

1. Pray about it

Whether you are religious or not, prayer has the best healing powers. Telling the MOST HIGH about your fear/problem is the best thing you can do.

2. Identify Your Fears

Know what you are afraid of. Only when identified can you face it.

3. Talk about your fear

Talking about it makes you feel relaxed. Also by sharing with people who you trust, will help a long way. That is why is it of utmost importance to surround yourself with the right set of people.

4. Read Books

Answers to our problems have been provided by those who has experienced such before us. Is it a fear of particular topic that is killing you? Take a book and read.

5. Recite Affirmations

A simple Bible verse like Psalm 23, “The lord is my Shepherd……will do a great deal. Verses like, I can do all things through Christ who strengthened me.

6. Be Positive

Think positively and act positively. You are what you think. Always think of possible ways not the other way around and stay positive.

Whenever you go out, always remember these truths about fear. Your imagination creates the fear, it is not real. Remember, you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you!

How have you been dealing with fear in the past? Tell us about it in the comment.

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Why You Should Surround Yourself With The Right People

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By: Gbenga Emiloju (CEO DMPII)

The categories of people with whom you spend most of your times would go a long way to determine the kind of impact, influence and results that your life will produce.

The people you spend your time with, you become.

The implication is that, you are going to end up like the calibre of people you continually associate with, and you must not forget that life is too short to be wasted with wrong people.

For your life to move in the right directions, you need the right people that would encourage, inspire, motivate, and always ready to help you achieve your goals.

Irrespective of your age, expertise, skills, and qualification, you cannot achieve your dream all alone. You need positive, right-thinking and well-motivated people to help you achieve your goals easily.

You may not necessarily need to have too many people in your life. It is not the quantity but the quality of people you stay with that matters.

It’s better to have one quality person who is pushing you forward, than to be in the company of many people who are bunches of cynics and mediocres. The higher you go in life the more selective you have to be.

NOTE:

You must be ready to let go off some people, because everybody cannot go with you where God is taking you. The higher you go in life, the tighter your circle has to become.


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How To 80/20 Your Life

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How do you put first thing first when everything seem to come first? Where do you begin? What can be done later? And what doesn’t need to be done at all? How do you 80/20 your life?

Remember, the worst use of time is to do something perfectly well that needs not be done at all.

We know the feeling when we seem overwhelmed. But there is one principle that can get you out of this dilemma. When it is followed, things work out well.

The principle is 80/20 principle also called pareto principle. It was discovered by an economist Vilfredo Pareto. Pareto found that a small proportion of any activity produces a majority of the results.

If you apply this principle to your lfe, you will have much of everything you don’t.

Look at it this way,

Don’t you wear 20 percent of your clothes 80 percent of the time? Don’t 20 percent of the people in your life create 80 percent of your problems?

If we can identify what works in our lives, what produces the results we want, we can let go of the rest. We can get more of what we want and less of what we don’t for much less time, money and energy.

80/20 your life by;

Working on your purpose

What motivated you to go out on your own? What do you want to accomplish? Why are you doing all these? Your sense of purpose will enable to know where you are going and to put that first in your life.

Clear out your backlog:

If your desk, files, cabinets, and calendar are filled with things that don’t relate to your purpose, you won’t have time or the space to put first things first.

Schedule for results:

Once you know where you are going and you have cleared the way, settling goals will take you where you want to go, but only if you bring them down to the minute. Leaving your goals on a notepad in a drawer somewhere puts them out of sight and out of mind. You’ve got to get them onto your calendar and let them become the focus of what you do every day.

“Doing much doesn’t mean your are getting much done.”

How have you been making most of your time?

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7 Ways To Stay Energized

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Just as the saying goes, “when the going gets tough, the tough gets going.” Its not as easy as it sounds. How do we stay energized? We tend to be become weary in no time when working on our goals or occupations.

There are some times we just want to lie on the couch and do nothing, despite having much work to do. Everyone of us feels that. But, we just have to get up and keep the ball rolling.

“Create in you an irresistible energy putting wings on your heart that will allow you to fly beyond all self-imposed limitations.”  Gerald Jampolsky, M.D.

Other than the fifth vital sign (pain), fatigue is also on of the reason people seek medical help.

Countless numbers of successful people from various fields have been observed, they all seem to have boundless of energy. They are always ready to take on the challenge. They jump out of bed in the morning and yet return in the evening full of energy. How were they able to do it?

According to Sarah and Paul Edwards, author of “Working from Home, they were able to keep themselves charged up using several ways.
Use these tips to stay energized.

1. Do not overwork: It’s an illusion to think you will get further by overworking. “When you are overworked, you don’t think at your best or make the best decision.”

Similarly, when you overtrain, you will become extremely fatigued, which may eventually result in poor performance.

Have you ever wondered why you didn’t get your expected result in an exam you wrote? One of the reasons was because, you didn’t give your brain enough time to rest before going into the exam hall.

You are the one who must make sure you pace yourself so you can be at your best when you need to be.

2. Keep the pressure in bounds: According to Joseph Procaccini, “unrealistic expectations are a real culprit in burnout.” Burnout occurs when the demand we put on ourselves is more than our energy input.

High expectations are a good way to motivate ourselves, but success also requires a state of equipoise between energy input and the demand we put on ourselves. When the two parameters are in equilibrium, we perform at our peak.

3. Know how much sleep you need and get enough: When there are not enough hours in the day, we take them from the night. But do not deprive yourself of too many nights. Get enough sleep each night that you arise feeling refreshed, but not so much that you feel sluggish. Schedule your most demanding work for those times of the day when you are at your peak.

4. Make sure you enjoy what you do: There is nothing as cool as loving what you do. It boosts your energy and keep you going. If you don’t love what you do, if you force yourself to continue doing it, you will start dreading Monday again. You will begin dragging through the day and slacking off.

As actress Sally Field put it, “I’d rather act than eat. If you don’t feel that way about what you do, then your legs are easily knocked out from under you.”

5. Eat high-energy food: Energy-riches foods will boost your energy and make you more productive. For high-energy, increased mental alertness, and greater motivation, eat food rich in protein, low-fat diary products, and carbohydrates.

Minimize intake of energy drainers like alcohol, sugar, salt and junk foods, which seem to charge you up but actually stress you out.

6. Get plenty of exercise: Do aerobic exercises (running, swimming, dancing) at least 20-30minutes every other day. Choose any activity you enjoy.

7. Take at least a day off from work: You need break to relax and recharge. Students can’t take a day off. There are always holidays. Make good use of them.


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